“Pastor, each time I pray to God to show me the wife to marry, I’d always dream of a married woman. What does that mean?”

According to the Bible, dreams are dark speeches, and before you commit yourself to a dream you had, ensure you interpret it correctly. Dreams are one of the Prophetic languages that the Holy Spirit uses to communicate with us, but if we’re unable to interpret the dreams He shows us correctly, we may run into a mess thinking that we’re walking in God’s leading. For instance, seeing yourself in school doesn’t necessarily mean you should go back to school, it could mean that you should subject yourself to studying as though you are under supervision. It could also mean that you were not schoolled properly and that you should refer to something you missed out on in school.

When you pray about a life partner and God shows you the picture of a lady or a man, don’t just jump into conclusion that he or she is your husband or wife. God probably showed the same lady or man to many others. God shows us pictures for many reasons, but mostly because He wants us to model our choice based on the picture He showed us, not necessarily because He wants us to go for it.

As long as He didn’t specifically say the person He showed you is your wife, then consider that person a model in finding a wife. A woman who is joined to a man in marriage has become one flesh with that man, so attempting to marry a married woman simply means you want to marry both she and her husband. God is not a confusionist. He won’t let any man put asunder what He has joined together. So just incase you’ve considered approaching the woman, kill that thought right now!

If God showed you a picture of Bishop David Oyedepo just after you prayed for a mentor, it doesn’t mean you should start booking appointments to see him. In fact, you don’t even have to see him. His picture was shown you so that you can model your life after him. And you can do that by following him. Listen to his messages, read his books, and learn all you can learn about him.

God showed me that Bishop David Abioye was my pastor in the year 2010, yet I never met him physically until 2021. That’s eleven years after. When I met him, it was easy to communicate with him because the grace had already produced results in my life. Imagine if I had to wait till I saw him, it means my life would have began in 2021. What a waste! Unfortunately, that’s what many people do. Countless number of people have contacted me to tell me how they saw Apostle Joshua Selman in their dream praying for them, and that I should help them set up the meeting.

That kind of action only proves one thing, they don’t understand prophetic languages. What they saw is a prophecy that will eventually come to pass if they begin to follow the grace upon Apostle Joshua Selman. Follow his teachings and instructions, and let it produce results in your life. When it’s time to meet him, your results from his teachings you’ve applied will speak for you. Isn’t it in your Bible that a man’s gift makes room for him and brings him before great men?

So we need to understand prophetic languages. I’ve heard experiences of how God showed a guy a lady who eventually got married to another man. This guy waited and kept troubling that lady – even in her married state. Please, was he praying for her husband to die? Since the time of Adam, you’d discover that there are very few people that God picked a wife for. I’ve come to discover that, as a man, you’d need a deep level of intimacy with God before He can recommend a wife for you. And that’s because He knows you’d not push the blame on Him when challenges arise.

When God shows you a model, use that model to find your wife. Never forget that it’s “he that finds a wife”, not “he that God finds a wife for”. God may guide you into choosing a wife that would help you fulfill destiny, but don’t always expect Him to do the choosing. Apostle Joshua Selman pointed this to be one of the reasons for late marriage in Christianity. Everybody is looking for God’s choice for them; “God show me my wife”, “God show me my husband”. While that may be a plausible idea, that’s a possibility that only comes through maturity and intimacy with God.

Some people have never heard God speak to them. But when it’s time to marry, they’d claim they’re waiting for God’s direction. That’s not good! Some of them even go to their pastors with names and pictures of “prospective” spouses – so that their pastor would pray and choose for them. Like seriously?

As I conclude, God guides us into choosing a spouse that would support and help us fulfill destiny, but we still need maturity to manage the various challenges that may arise in marriage. People who married God’s choice for them are not exempted from challenges. God’s will or not, marriage would be in dissaray without spiritual maturity. Spiritual maturity is a measure of spiritual intelligence. So learn, learn how to keep a home together, learn how to be a father or a mother, learn how to respond to challenges. Don’t just pray to have the kind of peace the Oyedepo’s and Adeboye’s enjoyed in their marriage, learn the things they did to enjoy peace.

I hope this has brought enlightenment to someone.

Remain ever blessed, in Jesus precious name!

#EmekaAnslem