It’s true that job security or even a steady income is a necessary consideration for marriage, but I’ve realized in my service to God and His kingdom that enough money is never enough for marriage. Consequencially, a good paying job for both couples should never be a reason for continuing in marriage.
We’ve heard tragic stories of couples who were prosperous before marriage, but months after marriage, it was as though marriage sabotaged their prosperity. Everything diminished as though they never had it. Some of them even got divorced because of the tragedy.
Don’t get me wrong; considering the times and economic situation of the world today, I encourage intending couples to both have at least one stream of income each – so that they can support the home together. However, knowing that physical things are temporal or subject to change, I don’t fail to unveil the truth that would help them succeed in the adventure of marriage. Let me share a few of them with you.
– FAITH IN GOD
According to scriptures, faith is the evidence of the things that hasn’t manifested in your life yet. Money will never be the evidence that you’d get married and stay in marriage, and that’s because the flow of money itself requires allegiance and obedience of faith to the authorities that govern financial prosperity, whether in the kingdom of light, or in the kingdom of darkness.
Look around you, have you ever seen a wealthy man who neither serves God nor mammon? I know you’re probably about to start mentioning names of people you presume to be non-believers, but if all you know about them is what they post on social media, then I beg you to pay attention to what I’m sharing with you. Assumption is the reason for the struggles and delays that many people experience today. Just because we call the unsaved “unbelievers” doesn’t mean they don’t believe in something.
So faith is the evidence of things not seen. It is the evidence that you’d get married and be successful in it despite the fact that your intended husband earns so little. I remember when I was ready to get married, all I had in my account was about five hundred thousand Naira. We had gone for introduction and the list they gave us was already more than the money in my account – if the items were to be converted to money. When we travelled back home to have a family meeting concerning the wedding, my dad was shocked to hear the amount I had in my account. He strongly believed that I had millions waiting for the traditional and white wedding. So you can imagine the dissapointment he expressed when he heard that I was not financially prepared.
Knowing the God who I believe, I told them not to worry about anything and that the wedding will hold. We even went ahead to fix the dates, which was about a month after. I went back home and sat down with my bible and began to search for scriptural evidences that I would get married despite the limited money in my account. I also went further to search for evidences that I won’t suffer in marriage despite the small salary I was earning at the time.
The Holy Spirit enlightened my understanding in many scriptures to a point that they became my convictions of faith, and that faith was the evidence that I was going to get married and be prosperous in marriage. Each time I thought of my wedding and marriage, I stopped thinking about my account or my job, my meditation and conviction was God’s word for me regarding the wedding. Lo and behold, God opened strange business doors for me, and I had more than enough for the wedding.
So the problem isn’t the money your intending husband earns or has in his account, the problem is if he really has faith. If he has faith, he’d share his convictions with you both in words and action. Faith cannot be hidden, if a person truly has faith, you’d know. This means that if you doubt his faith, then it may be a red flag.
It is the blessings of God that makes rich and adds no sorrow to our life’s adventures. Although I got married in 2020, but I started securing the blessings of God consciously from 2017.
When I say “blessing”, I mean that which we secure through giving. If your intended husband earns that little yet doesn’t hold back when it comes to giving both to God and His kingdom, please go ahead and marry him. But if he’s someone who only considers the kingdom when he has plenty, that’s a red flag.
As little as I was earning, I multiplied my worship offerings yearly and increased my tithe by a percent. Asides that, I gave something to someone everyday, no matter how little. I took advantage of every opportunity I had to give. I started doing all of these years before marriage was even conceived in my heart.
I may not have had plenty money in my account, but I had secured blessings enough to sponsor my wedding. One of the shocking things that happened even in the short time I had to plan the wedding was that I bought a car barely weeks to the wedding. Believe me, I didn’t see that coming.
So if your man is a man of sacrifice, marry him quickly. But if he doesn’t make sacrifices, that’s a red flag.
There are lot more keys to share but I intend to keep this article short. However, I’ve shared many of these secrets across my books which are available for free download on my website. I recommend you download as many as you can and read. I’d put the link in the comment section.
I hope this has brought enlightenment to someone.
Remain ever blessed, in Jesus precious name!